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How to Send Gifts When You Want to Ask For Helps or Benefits

By Susan Ye

2013-11-17 00:00:00

According to successful experiences and unsuccessful lessons at all times and all over the world, we at least should pay attention to the following principles:
 
1) the value of your gift should be appropriate.
Generally speaking, the gift is worthless and of little significance, the other party may think you are looking down upon him, especially for those who are not very close to you. If the gift is worthless, it is difficult to achieve your purposes, success is even impossible. While, if the gift is too valuable, the other party may feel it just likes bride-taking, especially for your colleagues and bosses. In general, most may refuse you politely except those bold freeloaders. Even if they accept your gifts, they will pay or return you some another gifts later. It seems to force them to expense. If the other party refuses, you have bought the gift and it is useless for you, then you may feel annoyed. Just as we always say: “you are buying troubles with money”, why bother yourself? Therefore, you should choose gifts with appropriate value which the other parties may accept them happily, try hard to get more helps or benefits with less money.


2) choosing a suitable time interval for gift giving
The time interval for gift giving is also very important; it is not suitable either too frequently or too infrequently. The gift senders may often send gifts because they are rich or eager to get help. Some people may think this show your generosity and must impress the other party deeply and positively. In fact, it is not the truth. Because sending gifts frequently shows you have obvious purposes. In addition, courtesy demands reciprocity, they must return some other gifts to you. In general, it is appropriate to select the important festivals, weddings days and birthdays to send gifts. Gift giving should be proper, and the recipients will feel at ease, which may satisfy both sides.


3) Understanding customs and taboos.
Before sending gifts, you should know the identity, hobbies, ethnic customs of the recipient, lest getting yourself into troubles. A man went to the hospital to visit the patient, with a bag of apples to show his sympathy, which causes troubles. Because the patient happens to be a Shanghainess, in the local language, the sound of “apple” is even the same with that of “die of illness”. Sending apples is cursing people die. Because this man does not know this taboo, which causes an unhappy breakup. On account of this, in order to avoid new problems crop up unexpectedly, you should be thoughtful when sending a gift. For example, don't send a clock as a gift, because the sound of "clock" is similar to that of "final" in Chinese, which means unlucky; sending a bad painting to a intellectual with high cultural quality will be embarrassing and boring; if you send Moslems gifts with images of pig, they may drive you out angrily.

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